Love in the Good, Old Days.

Sometimes, I do wander in retrospect, at the way things were done in the 1970s and the 1980s in regard to the love department.

Back then, there was no overt reliance on technology or social media. No cell phones. Cameras were not Siamese twins of cell phones. No Facebook. No Twitter. No Craiglist. No Ipad. No kindle.

There were no faceless, spurious characters hiding behind some technological fads to find love “online”. There was no way for any man or woman to project some fake profiles or (and) doctored pictures online while the actual, “unpalatable” person holed himself or herself somewhere.

There was no way a man or woman would arrive at a restaurant or movie theater only to realize that an expected date was no where close in resemblance to the invited person or image earlier seen online.  

In the good, old days, when individuals were asked about their relationships, no one ever had any reason to respond with a vague cliché such as “It’s complicated…”

Back then, wooing was an Art and a painstaking one at that. Men would take the time and efforts to fine-tune the Art as they got their acts together. And it was worth all the trouble because men had to physically present themselves as they embarked on wooing the desired women.

Oh no, that was no time to be a shy guy. Shy men always had a hard time with women. And women had the opportunity to ponder over their responses to every romantic advance. Some of them would deliberately take too long to make feelings known. The bottom-line was simply a matter of “what you see is what you get”. It’s very much unlike these days when a woman is often pressurized to make an “instant coffee” decision about a guy she just met “online” and whose real identity or character she has not known.    

Back then, men were usually described as handsome, not cute or pretty. But of course, those were the days mostly of real men and not some "pretty", physically-distorted and disease-spreading guys “on the down low”. And those were the days of strong women who would readily demand for respect where it was lacking as opposed to nowadays when a woman will take all kinds of bullsh... out of desperation for a relationship or marriage.

And lest I forget, parents in the good, old days were able to pay closer attention to the activities of their daughters. Back then, the primary means of communication was the old fashion, wall-hanging or table-top telephone. Therefore, it was not easy for pedophiles and dirty old men to prey on, lure and stalk teenage girls while pretending to be teenage boys as they now do “online” with all those technological toys.