For Those Haunted by Some Ugly Past.

On The Steve Harvey Morning Show today (Friday, 05/30/2014) there was a woman who called-in to ask why her boyfriend’s mother hated her.

In the woman’s words, she once visited Jamaica on a vacation. Over there, she met another American woman with whom she had a short gay fling.

Long afterward, she started a relationship with a man. As fate would have it, when the guy took her to meet his mother, the latter turned out to be the woman with whom she had a lesbian affair in Jamaica.

The older woman developed an instant hatred for her.

Defiantly, the young woman insisted that the brief fling with the older woman took place when she was single…a part of her past that should have nothing to do with her current relationship.

My thought at that moment (as I listened to the radio) was “Really, God…how naïve can many of those young people be???”

Incidentally, even Steve Harvey put it this way; “…excuse me, that woman had seen, felt and played around with your body. And you think she will be pleased to know that her son is likely seeing that same body of yours as some kind of a treasure? Come-on now!”

Personally, I really don’t know why so many people (especially women) often have the idea that their past can just be wished away nonchalantly with a wave of the hand. Some of them even see their so-called ugly past as a badge of honor!

The reality though is that those haunted by their ugly past ought to take the bull by the horn. You have to lay it squarely before your current partners. Until they come to terms with it, no solid foundation can ever be laid for a long term commitment.

Those who ignore this advice (from one, who had been there, done that) simply risk investing their bodies, emotions and (possibly) a big chunk of their lives on a relationship that is most likely to crash like the Titanic sooner or later.