Love is hard to find. Some people wait years while others
never find it at all. Once you’ve met someone you love, it may be tempting to
hold on to them with everything you’ve got, but it’s important to remember that
not every type of love leads to a happy, healthy relationship. Love should make
you the best version of yourself. It should include more highs than lows.
Unfortunately, more often than not, being in love can bring out your worst
qualities, fears, and insecurities, especially when you’re intimate with
someone who’s dealing with their own baggage.
One survey by YourTango found that 89% of people think
that half or more of all people have toxic relationships in their lives. These
toxic relationships can be hard to spot as often they come in pretty packages
that seem wonderful on the outside but are full of issues and hurt under the
surface. Not sure where your relationship falls on the spectrum? Skim through
these top five relationships to avoid.
1. Passion overload: A romantic relationship
would just be a close friendship without passion. This fiery quality plays an
important role in love. It’s what makes you care so deeply, love like crazy,
and do things you normally wouldn’t do. While passion is a necessary ingredient
in a relationship, too much of it can quickly lead to a toxic, unhealthy
relationship. Passion is pure emotion, so when there’s too much passion you may
experience high levels of jealousy or big blow out fights. As any couple knows,
jealousy and fighting is natural, but overly passionate relationships will
experience these qualities to the point that they begin to take over and
counteract any good in a relationship.
2. Convenient comfort: These relationships are like
your favorite pair of sweatpants. They are familiar, comfortable, and make you
feel warm and safe. Like a comfortable, convenient relationship that’s hard to
leave, it can be hard to pull off those cozy, fleece-lined sweatpants and
squeeze into a stiff pair of jeans. Single life can be rough, making that
comfortable relationship all the more appealing. The problem is that comfort
doesn’t equal happiness. These convenient relationships just hold you back from
finding true happiness and love.
3. Overly controlled: It’s natural to care about
someone and want what’s best for them, but it’s quite another thing to attempt
to control their every move. Relationships that revolve around one person’s
control over the other are dangerous. If you don’t feel free to be yourself,
make your own choices, and decide things for yourself, you may be in an
unhealthy, controlling relationship. Maintaining these relationships can hinder
your personal growth and may even manipulate you into thinking you’re happy
when you’re not.
4. Lies, lies, lies: Trust is the foundation of a
healthy relationship, so when a relationship is built on lies, it’s practically
impossible to operate as a healthy, functioning couple. Lying may seem harmless
at first. Perhaps it’s just an omission of information or a small, white lie
that you say to avoid hurting your partner’s feelings. However, no matter how
small, lying is a slippery slope. It may seem harmless, but once you start, it
becomes easier and easier to for the lies to slip out, harming a relationship
built around them.
5. Being with the bully: Are you in a relationship
where one person has significantly more power and control than the other
person? If so, chances are high that you’re in an abusive relationship. Whether
physically, mentally, or emotionally operated, bullies function by maintaining
enough power that their partner is afraid to challenge them. This relationship
runs on fear and fear is the opposite of love. If you find yourself in this
exhausting, hurtful relationship, you’ll want to find a way out immediately.
Courtesy: Cheat Sheet.
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