Reactions to "Accept me as I am"

I have been getting e-mails in reaction to "Accept me as I am" published here on May 17, 2012, Most of the mails are coming from women who are either against or in favor of the thrust of the article. And there are those who completely misunderstand my point in the whole thing. To them, it's another demonstration of an insensitive attitude on the part of men to the travails of women. Below are two of the e-mails that I decided to publish today because the women insisted I did.

(i). The first time I read Accept me as I am on your blog site, I wanted to curse you out. I was upset. Okay, I guess I took it a little too personal. But after a while, I took it that you were only responding to the shared personal experience of your lady friend or colleague. Poor woman, her husband had the nerve to ignore her in bed! Do you guys think us women want to be shapeless by choice? For god's sake, the woman lost her figure because of the couple's child whose pregnancy she carried. Do you guys think it's easy to carry a pregnancy for months before going through delivery and then be able to look like one used to?

In my situation, I had my baby last year through a caesarian section. Now, how could I go to the gym or do anything to take off the weight I gained? Besides, some medications I took made me pile on more weight. If my boyfriend dares open his mouth to say I no longer look like I used to, I'll curse the hell out of him because he made my body what it is now.   

(2). I enjoyed reading what you wrote about the need for women to take care of their bodies but I felt I should let you know that men also need to do same. I never cared about workouts until I met my ex-husband. Actually, it was his sexy body, six pack and all that attracted me to him. He was also the person who encouraged me to get in good shape. Right now, no one will ever know I've got two kids because of my great body shape. 

Now guess what? The same guy that taught me to take care of my body is himself now in very bad shape. The last dumb thing that came out of his mouth before I decided to dump his black ass was that he was too old to continue with daily workouts. Too old at 38? But he has never been too old to eat a big box of large pizza and top it with a gallon of soda at just one sitting? Now, he has a pot belly that keeps expanding everyday with a fat, wobbly body. He is a big mess. The last time I saw him, he could not even tie his own shoe laces. Isn't that crazy? So, tell me what use is such a guy to a woman in bed and anywhere? I just wanted you to know that this issue cuts across men and women.