I remember that day in 1983 when we met and how you firmly but politely let me realize that "Only rotten 'apples' are within the easy reach of Man. The good 'fruits' are way up the tree and it takes a man with patience, responsibility and other qualities to get one." You practically set and controlled the pace of the relationship on that strict, principled premise. And it remained that way until finally in 1985 when it blossomed into a courtship.
Today, I also remember our traditional ceremony on the eve of the wedding in 1987. In line with the Yoruba culture, I was made to prostrate before everyone from the 2nd to the 1st floor of your Odogbolu country home. Your auntie (Mrs. Adenrele) consoled me every step of the way by reminding me that I was getting married to a very precious "gem", worthy of all the "stress" to which I was being subjected.
And, of course, there was the glorious wedding on the 1st of August, 1987. The town of Odogbolu was agog. I remember how we looked on in amusement as every available space on our wedding certificate was covered with the assorted signatures of family members, relations and some distinguished guests such as the six royal fathers in attendance.
After all the wedding glitz and fan-fare, we told each other that the real work (marriage) had just started. And we made it clear that it would be "Fun while we worked". With this mindset therefore, we set to work with excitement.
Like a ship though, no marriage can keep sailing for 30 years without coming across some storms. Twice, both of us (together) would have died in what could have been ghastly motor accidents. The 1st was on the Lagos 3rd Mainland Bridge, shortly after our wedding. The 2nd was in 1990 along the Sagamu to Ibadan Highway. Also, on three occasions, you would have become a widow (1989, 1992 and 1993) but for the grace of God. In these and every other dicey situation in the past 30 years, you've proved that the oath, "For better or for worse..." is not a mere cliche for you.
Therefore, while to God alone be the glory, I must also acknowledge your great virtues, extra-ordinary calmness/patience in the face of travails and, above all, your unconditional love for me. And that's why I'll forever cherish, adore and celebrate you as a most wonderful wife, mother and the only mortal with whom I've got no secrets.
Titilola, iyawo mi atata, je t'aime...and you know.
Happy 30th wedding anniversary to us!!!
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