Why is it so difficult for us to accept responsibility for
our actions? We all like to feel important and have others have a high opinion
of us. Some, more than others, develop an over-inflated view of
themselves.
These tendencies act to wrap us in what many call
"denial", which creates a false perception of self and the inability
to accept the truth about us. It then becomes painful to accept that mistakes
are possible and when we make them, the first reaction is to point a finger at
someone else. We refuse to think objectively and accept any involvement for our
actions. Taking responsibility can be a very painful thing to do.
The inability to accept responsibility for our actions and
behaviors is a result of insecurity. By taking responsibility, some feels they
are admitting to being weak, powerless, or an opportunity to lose the respect
of others. It may cause one to feel he/she will lose a sense of value and
importance.
On the contrary, taking responsibility earns you respect. We
can't be perfect all the time, we all make mistakes. When we accept
responsibility we are accepting the blame for our actions and also accepting
the responsibility for making improvements in our lives.
Accepting responsibility is a measure of one's self-worth, a
level of security, and the true sign of strength and courage. Having this
ability can empower you to grow in ways that will bring you great rewards and
accomplishments in your life.
Who would you rather have great respect for: A person who
takes responsibility for his/her actions, owns up to it and promises to do
better in the future? Or someone who perpetually denies any involvement in
situations when it's obvious he/she may be responsible? Accepting
responsibility is a sign of personal growth and maturity. It is definitely not
a sign of weakness. - Audrey Marlene.
