A Lesson in Civility.

I was headed to a meeting recently at a downtown office building. There was a guy a few steps ahead of me, apparent in a slight hurry. In addition to observing his light jog, I also noticed we were headed in the same direction towards the elevator. As the elevator opened, he immediately got in and began frantically pressing the ‘close door’ button causing the elevator door to close as I was only a few steps away. Because I was visible, his refusal to attempt to hold the elevator for me raised a few questions in my mind about the state of civility in today’s society.We’re involved in a great deal of incivility ranging from simple gestures of kindness; the handling of social media; and, even what’s taking place in the presidential election.  We’ve moved past the days of giving someone the right-of-way  in traffic, stopping at cross walks, saying “excuse me” when inadvertently bumping into someone, sending “thank you” cards, etc. Taking all this into account we want to remind and encourage you to extend a little patience and kindness along with a sprinkling of some random acts of kindness in our everyday lives. We can all make a conscious effort to get civility back!

- Author unknown.

Taking Responsibility for Our Actions.

Why is it so difficult for us to accept responsibility for our actions? We all like to feel important and have others have a high opinion of us. Some, more than others, develop an over-inflated view of themselves.  

These tendencies act to wrap us in what many call "denial", which creates a false perception of self and the inability to accept the truth about us. It then becomes painful to accept that mistakes are possible and when we make them, the first reaction is to point a finger at someone else. We refuse to think objectively and accept any involvement for our actions. Taking responsibility can be a very painful thing to do. 

The inability to accept responsibility for our actions and behaviors is a result of insecurity. By taking responsibility, some feels they are admitting to being weak, powerless, or an opportunity to lose the respect of others. It may cause one to feel he/she will lose a sense of value and importance. 

On the contrary, taking responsibility earns you respect. We can't be perfect all the time, we all make mistakes. When we accept responsibility we are accepting the blame for our actions and also accepting the responsibility for making improvements in our lives. 

Accepting responsibility is a measure of one's self-worth, a level of security, and the true sign of strength and courage. Having this ability can empower you to grow in ways that will bring you great rewards and accomplishments in your life. 

Who would you rather have great respect for: A person who takes responsibility for his/her actions, owns up to it and promises to do better in the future? Or someone who perpetually denies any involvement in situations when it's obvious he/she may be responsible? Accepting responsibility is a sign of personal growth and maturity. It is definitely not a sign of weakness. - Audrey Marlene.