Never Ignore The Past

I used to wonder why some people (and especially women) just couldn't get it right easily in matters of the heart. But now, I know the reason: They ignore the past!

While it's alright to let go of past errors, but to shut out its lessons is similar to throwing a baby out with the bath water. This was the lesson I learned from an old friend many years ago.

I've never seen any woman that fell so quickly in love with every "dream man" instead of the "right man."

Back then, she had the prototype image of an educated, cultured, perfect gentleman in her mind and this was fair enough because she had the same qualities. The only problem however was that as soon as any man came along, she would proceed to "mold" him into her conceivable image much to the chagrin of the concerned men. For instance, she once spent a fortune to "kit up" one "creep" with some pretty suits and shoes just for the thug to look presentable. And as usual, the dude pretended to go through the charade until he had his fill of her "cookie" and then (like the others before him), he ran.

Incidentally, she just didn't get it. Each time, we talked and I had to listen to her sob story, she would always blame it all on the guys. Most times, her frustrating question was "what's wrong with guys?" That was until one day, I told her bluntly that "the question really is what the heck is wrong with YOU?" And when she looked confused, I asked further, when she would start learning from her past errors? 

I said since she knew what she wanted in a man, all she had to do was WAIT for the right man to show up (with all the right packages) instead of trying to mold every Tom, Dick or Harry that came along into her expectations.

To my surprise, it took only a few minutes for the message to sink in. She has since been happily married.

Ironically, she always thank me for making her look back to learn from her past errors. But I will always thank her for providing some useful lessons I can pass down to my daughters.