1. A Man with Integrity: Be manly in all that you do. Say
what you mean and mean what you say. And by this I do not mean be arrogant or
cocky. A man of integrity strikes me as someone who is confident. And well if
you’re kind into the bargain well that’s just even more sexy. The definition of
integrity itself is “the adherence to moral and ethical principles; the state
of being whole and solid.” Lies are never hot. Nor is the omission of the truth
via silence. Acting with integrity is pretty simple: Be a good man. And we’ll
love you for it. If you can use this goodness to make the world a better place,
then we want you all the more.
2. A Man Who's Present: By this I also mean have some
self-awareness; be mindful, strive to make a deeper connection with us. It’s my
experience that women who act unnecessarily clingy only do so when they are
lacking in attention. That means perhaps you’re not being present with us and
we sense it. We are confident women. We don’t need you, we want you because we
love you and choose you. But if you’re not present, it causes problems. When
you’re in the moment with us everything else fades away. Oh and note to self. A
man with presence strikes me as a man who is confident, also.
3. A Man Who's Complimentary & Considerate: Yes, we
confident women have our own self-esteem but we like to hear you say nice,
honest things since you’re our man. Tell us what you love about us,
specifically. We believe it about ourselves but when someone we love says it,
wow, that’s hot. As for considerate, to me that might equal making an effort
and trying to be a good listener. We don’t want to be priority all the time but
we do want to be referred to sometimes and considered. And did I mention a man
who is considerate and sincerely complimentary strikes me as a very confident
man? (Did someone turn the heat up in here?)
4. A Man Who Takes Initiative: [Temperature still rising in
here.] You know honestly, we know we can do this (and we can live alone as
Amazon warrior women with one breast intact) yet sometimes don’t want to
control it all. Initiative is a serious turn-on in a man. Often, the devil is
in the details. We don’t care what you take initiative in, whether it be
declaring that you will make the dinner reservations, you will take out the
garbage, you will pick the concert, just every once in a while we just want to
know you’ve got it covered. Grrr. That’s hot.
5. A Man Who's Passionate: It’s rare to find. Be passionate
in something that you do since passion spells everything. We don’t care if it’s
politics, football, music, cooking, dogs, billiards or stamp collecting for
that matter. That’s irrelevant. When we see you with a commitment, devotion,
excitement expressed about something with no restraint then we add two plus two
together. If you’re passionate in one area, we know you’ll be passionate in the
bedroom. It’s not what society says you should love. It’s not what your friends
or family say you should care about. It’s what you, at the deepest and most honest
part of yourself, love. We hear it in your voice, the self-assurance, how
articulately you speak about this topic and it drives us crazy, in a good way.
6. A Man Who Expresses Humor & Positivity: We love
humor, even if it’s just being able to be witty in response every once in a
while. We don’t want a clown all the time, but every so often someone who can
laugh is a big deal. I once dated a man and no matter how angry or upset I was
I couldn’t stay angry with him for long since he had a great sense of humor. I
also dated a man who was serious all the time. Guess which one I preferred? It
takes a confident person to be able to use humor in the right way. OH and not
forgetting optimism too, that’s always good. Together they are dynamic. Dealing
with pessimism all the time becomes exhausting.
7. A Man Who Knows Himself & Is Himself: Or at least
strive to. Now, that, gentlemen is sexy. You don’t have to know everything
about yourself (you can still be searching in some areas) but some
self-awareness is hot. If you don’t know yourself, it will be hard for us to
figure out the real you. Real men I think know what they believe and what they
value in advance. Someone with a kind of inner calm, self-awareness and forward
momentum is almost universally considered sexy and attractive to others. You
also are in touch with your feelings and you’re not afraid to spend time
learning, growing and developing. We don’t care if you’re not exactly where you
want to be but we love to see you make this effort. And, note to self, people
who know themselves often express vulnerability. And there is absolutely
nothing sexier than a vulnerable man.
Courtesy: The Cheat List.
