A Cheating Man’s Weapon of Seduction.

Yesterday, I was chatting with a former colleague who is now newly-employed at one of Delaware’s corporate giants. The young woman was telling me about her new job when she abruptly changed the subject to ask me a question.

“By the way…” she began, looking at me coyly. “Why is it that you’re the only guy I know who says nice things about his wife---and I don’t think you’re a saint?”

Before I could answer, the woman went on to tell me about the way her male colleagues had been bombarding her with considerable attentions, each asking for a date.

“See, I barely get a breathing space…and some of them are married!” she continued to say in amusement. “What I don’t understand is this…why is it that the married guys are so eager to tell me a lot of terrible things about their wives?”

“Hello…” I started to nod my head slowly while smiling. “That’s a cheating man’s cheapest trick of seduction.”

“How…is that the way to get to me…by saying crazy things about their wives?”

“Uh-uh. When a married man wants to cheat, he will often start by launching into self-pity through some sob stories in which his wife’s character will be destroyed.”

“Really? But that’s so ignorant…!”

“Yeah, it is…but that’s how it’s done by players...all over the world.”

A married man, who is about to cheat, will usually start by comparing his marriage to a prison environment, just so as to attract the sympathy of his “prey”. He will expect the woman to start feeling sorry for him. The next stage in the process is to flatter her into thinking that she is the much better alternative he has been searching for, someone like a fresh breath of air. Here, an unwary woman may get carried away by the flattery, so much that she will begin to see herself as a “savior” or “redeemer” to an “emotionally-damaged” man. Before long, she will be trying hard to fit into the prefect-picture-alternative painted by the man. That’s it, he just got her!

Sadly for most women, it takes them too long before they begin to wonder and ask why the man is no longer eager to divorce his wife and marry them---as he had earlier promised. And when the woman persists in asking this question, the man will take it as the much needed opportunity to begin a withdrawal process. He does this by protesting against her “incessant nagging”, and this, to be followed by his desire to end the “affair”. By then, the man must have satisfied his “curiosity”, got his fill of her “cookie” and ready to move on to another sucker!