The Yoruba people of southwestern Nigeria have a saying to the effect, “Spoken words are like eggs. Once they fall off from a mouth, they can’t be repackaged into their previous shapes.” Now, actions or spoken words that inflict physical or emotional pain cannot, in all reality, be expected to go away. The aggrieved party only has to see the scar or remember the emotional anguish to feel offended all over again.
Therefore, the only anti-dote to this type of situation is for us all to be mindful of what we do or say in moments of anger. And each time we do mess up, as imperfect mortals, the best we can hope for is forgiveness. Asking the aggrieved parties to forget is akin to asking them to wipe off a part of their brains. This is a “Mission Impossible”.
11 comments:
This guy is really after my heart!
Wow, this is an issue that has been accepted as the mantra in human relationships. Now, I'm viewing it in a different light.
Really, we were raised and taught to forgive and forget BUT heck, in reality, it's tough to completely let go by forgetting.
lol...wow...I never looked at this issue this way. This guy has a way with words. I'm completely hooked on this blog.
Uhmmm--truly, this is not an easy thing for anyone to do. But we all will simply accept to "forgive and forget" merely to let the matter go...
For those of us who believe in God and sincerely call ourselves Christians, we MUST learn to forgive and forget-in spite of the difficulty that comes with the decision.
"A brain has no eraser and neither does it have a delete button." That's so right, my brother!
Those two words are very dynamic. To forgive actually takes a lot of strength and compassion on the part of the aggrieved. Therefore, asking the same aggrieved to forget the issue--irrespective of the damages the issues must have caused the aggrieved physically and emotionally-- is to ask for the impossible. I agree!
As a Christian, I have no choice but to follow the Bible's directives which place a lot of emphasis on "forgive and forget".
I must say, I'm impressed with the way my man here tackles some words and issues many of us do take for granted in our day-to-day life's inter-actions. Good job!
This is really a food-for-thought...wow!
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