Is it really so very difficult for women to know the difference between lust and love? I've discussed with some women who admitted that it was a difficult thing to discern. Okay, I know from past experience that women can be very emotional and sentimental. In the mindset of almost every man (including the dumb types), all that is needed do get a woman (including the highly educated) is to flatter her, tell her what she wants to hear and do what she expects from a man of her dreams and, before you know it, she will fall...sometimes, into her death.
A few days ago, 33-year-old E’Dena Hines (Morgan Freeman’s granddaughter) was stabbed about 16 times by her 30-year-old deranged, live-in boyfriend, Lamar Davenport. The man was in the throes of a drug-induced psychosis when he committed the crime a few blocks from their New York apartment. Here was a college-educated, professionally-accomplished actress/writer in a "relationship" with a semi-illiterate, lazy, rapper wannabe who is known to indulge in cocaine, pot and booze. He has six prior arrests, including for marijuana and petit larceny.
The worst aspect of a case such as this is that his girlfriend must have known about all these vices but typically would be playing “savior”, trying to help him out of his “demons”. Now, she is dead and the young man may even get off the hook by pleading “temporary insanity”.
A few months ago, Shade Adebayo, a 24 year-old Nigerian woman was brutally shot to death outside a Target store in Montgomery County, Maryland. From the moment she started dating the 27-year-old Donald Wayne Bricker Jr., the educated young woman knew that Donald was a drop-out, barely literate white man. Yet, she continued the relationship because she was in “love”. She failed to realize a Yoruba adage that says “A child is acting dumb and the parents are only concerned about the child's life, not knowing that it's the dumbness that will kill the child.” By the time Shade realized her own dumbness and decided to end the relationship, it was too late. Donald had made a counter decision. If he could not have her then nobody would have her.
There was the recent case of a man who was arrested for turning the face of his girlfriend into a mashed potato. A few hours later, the same girlfriend showed up to bail him out. And on seeing the stunned looks of the disappointed officers, the stupid woman blurted out that she loved him blah-blah-blah!
Personally, it hurts to see or hear of too many women who are becoming victims of homicides. These murders could have been easily avoided if only some women were not so dumb as to mistake lust for love!
7 comments:
What do I say?...Long Time No See! Anyway, this piece is awesome as usual.
What a sad loss! it's amazing how women do this to themselves.
This really is so sad! We, as women, have a way of subjecting ourselves to all these unnecessary heart-aches and deaths--in the name of love. I pray God will shine His perpetual lights on the souls of the victims.
Each time sad stories about gullible women such as those mentioned in this piece appear in the news, I take it personal. This is terribly sad. love is not dumb. It's dumb people that fall in love.
I've been wondering where you were since you wrote about your wedding anniversary....thought you were on the 28th honeymoon--lol. Thanks for writing about this sad issue that plagues the lives of many women who claim to be in love with the wrongest men in the world. Sadly, you were right to state that some women do know how crazy and worthless their men are, yet they pretend to play saviors...until they lose their lives.
This is further proof that women are their own worst enemies. It's truly sad how they pave the way for men to play them and take advantage of them.
We all (men and women) need the differences between lust and love. It's just that some women choose to live in denials. As adults, we do know where common sense ends and stupidity begins. Those who choose to stick their heads in the sands, all in the name of keeping their relationships, should expect and live (or die) with the consequences. Thanks for a good piece.
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