When Women Mistake Lust for Love.

Is it really so very difficult for women to know the difference between lust and love? I've discussed with some women who admitted that it was a difficult thing to discern. Okay, I know from past experience that women can be very emotional and sentimental. In the mindset of almost every man (including the dumb types), all that is needed do get a woman (including the highly educated) is to flatter her, tell her what she wants to hear and do what she expects from a man of her dreams and, before you know it, she will fall...sometimes, into her death.

A few days ago, 33-year-old E’Dena Hines (Morgan Freeman’s granddaughter) was stabbed about 16 times by her 30-year-old deranged, live-in boyfriend, Lamar Davenport. The man was in the throes of a drug-induced psychosis when he committed the crime a few blocks from their New York apartment. Here was a college-educated, professionally-accomplished actress/writer in a "relationship" with a semi-illiterate, lazy, rapper wannabe who is known to indulge in cocaine, pot and booze. He has six prior arrests, including for marijuana and petit larceny.

The worst aspect of a case such as this is that his girlfriend must have known about all these vices but typically would be playing “savior”, trying to help him out of his “demons”. Now, she is dead and the young man may even get off the hook by pleading “temporary insanity”.

A few months ago, Shade Adebayo, a 24 year-old Nigerian woman was brutally shot to death outside a Target store in Montgomery County, Maryland. From the moment she started dating the 27-year-old Donald Wayne Bricker Jr., the educated young woman knew that Donald was a drop-out, barely literate white man. Yet, she continued the relationship because she was in “love”. She failed to realize a Yoruba adage that says “A child is acting dumb and the parents are only concerned about the child's life, not knowing that it's the dumbness that will kill the child.” By the time Shade realized her own dumbness and decided to end the relationship, it was too late. Donald had made a counter decision. If he could not have her then nobody would have her.

There was the recent case of a man who was arrested for turning the face of his girlfriend into a mashed potato. A few hours later, the same girlfriend showed up to bail him out. And on seeing the stunned looks of the disappointed officers, the stupid woman blurted out that she loved him blah-blah-blah!

Personally, it hurts to see or hear of too many women who are becoming victims of homicides. These murders could have been easily avoided if only some women were not so dumb as to mistake lust for love!

Freedom Comes With Responsibilities.

Baltimore Riots: To Whose Benefits?

Each time my black folks express grievances over some injustice, their favorite choice of re-action is the tearing down of their cities of abode to shreds. In the wake of the massive destruction, looting and desecration that characterized the Baltimore riots, the consequences are beginning to manifest. The city will now end up diverting available resources from much-needed areas crying for attention to off-set the huge financial costs required to clean up and restore normalcy.

In the meantime, the whole world appears to have forgotten about the origin of the problem and its moral message. For the next couple of weeks, the only images in the consciousness of the global community will be those of a people engaged in an orgy of destructions and looting. In place of their initial empathy, the question on their minds now will be; “What’s wrong with those African Americans?”
And lest we forget. While the rampage lasts, schools are closed, academic year is messed up and kids’ minds are turned into a devil’s workshop due to idleness. On the other hand, many people will lose their jobs as a result of the looted and destroyed businesses. Therefore, to whose benefits are the riots?

 

For Those Who Text & Drive.

How Not to Get Your Ass Kicked by the Police.

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Between Evil And Nonchalance.

"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." - Albert Einstein.

The Gullible Victims of Scams.

The other time, I could not help venting anger at some of my folks in Nigeria who have made a profession out of scamming other people across the world, and mostly, the United States.

It’s important however to point out the culpability of the victims. The scourge of the Nigerian scam is largely fueled unnecessarily by the greed and prejudices of Americans. In this piece, I intend to discuss the aspect of greed while the issue of prejudice will be discussed at another time.

The first major victims of the Nigerian scam are the Americans who want to reap where they have not sown.  A typical Nigerian scam artist is like a fisherman. And when he/she is “fishing”, all the rules of engagement apply. Here is an example:   

Michael Coventry (not real names) logged-on to his computer one morning to see an e-mail. It was from a Nigerian who informed him that her deceased father’s fortune (running into $20 Million) was stuck in the nation’s central bank. The woman went on to state that her father died intestate and for this reason, the Nigerian apex bank was in the process of giving his entire fortune to the state. In a bid to avert this injustice though, a top official of the bank informed the family that the only alternative left was the remittance of the funds to an American bank. So, it was in view of this factor that the woman pleaded with Coventry to allow the huge funds to be deposited into his bank account.

Michael Coventry sent a reply in which he wondered why the woman and her family trusted him (a total stranger) so much as to try depositing such a large sum of money in his bank account. But in her prompt response, the woman stated that her family had been left with no other choice but to trust the American or else the entire fortune would be forfeited to the Nigerian government. That was Coventry’s first mistake. The first rule for a potential victim is NEVER SEND A RESPONSE! But as Coventry sent a response, he did not only confirm the existence of his e-mail address but also now appeared to be like a fish showing interest in a bait.

Persuaded by the pathetic story and the promise of a 40% cut, Coventry agreed to send his bank account information and phone number. This was his second mistake. It showed that he was about to swallow the bait and so was vulnerable to the scam.

A couple of days later, the same woman called to say the 40% cut would have to be reduced to 25% because of some unexpected expenses that arose in the transaction. Coventry agreed. This would be his third mistake as it showed that the man was too greedy to negotiate for a fair share in the deal.    

For the next couple of weeks, the scam artists did not make any contact with Michael Coventry. Then the man called the number given him by the woman to ask what was going on? He complained, saying it was over two weeks since they last talked and wanted to know why the money had not been remitted. This was the fourth mistake because it was a sure indication that the victim was now desperate and would definitely swallow the bait.

Now, the woman (on the phone) began to sob. When Coventry asked why she was crying, the woman explained that the bank official was demanding for his $25,000 fee ahead of the remittance. According to the woman, the family could only afford $15,000. So, could the American please send the $10,000 balance to enable the family “settle” the banker? The woman quickly reminded the man that he stood to receive a whopping sum of $5 Million for “all his efforts” anyway and the requested $10,000 was like a “chicken change”. For a few seconds, Coventry was silent. Then he asked for time to get the cash.

Michael Coventry wired a sum of $10,000 to the woman and therefore became a “mugun” (a dumb fellow)!