Showing posts with label Humanity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Humanity. Show all posts

Monday, July 6, 2020

The most Important Lesson about Human Nature.

In 1989, I learned from my dog, one of the most important lessons about the human nature. From Lucky, my German Shepherd, I learned that when faced with life's travails, there is a huge difference between the words of a fellow human and that of a dog. When both say, "Hey, I've got your back", beware; because while the dog remains constantly behind you, keeping faith, you'll never know when the human disappears into thin air.

The Reason why Evil Thrives.

"If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?"
 
- Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn in his classical book, The Gulag Archipelago (1973).

Sunday, October 13, 2019

Pack the Plates.

Usually, my mum would leave some piece of meat for the person packing her plates after meal.
My motivation to pack her plate was the meat. On a particular day, the plate was empty and I just walked pass. One of my brothers came around, moved by a sense of duty and packed the plates. Mum thanked him and while he engaged both hands carrying the plates, she asked him to open his mouth as she dunked a mouthful chunk! The plate was empty, but her hand was full. I didn't see the hand, I only checked the plate. That lesson never left me.
The reward for packing some plates of responsibilities and duties may not be visible on the plates but wrapped within the faithful fingers of devotion, dedication and selfless service to humanity.
Many people walk pass their fulfillment by looking the other way from obligations simply because the plate poses with an empty reward.
I have since learnt that greatness is postpaid. Greatness is rarely advertised on the screen of reward but disguised like an empty manger bearing the burden of a full Inn.
You cannot predict the weight of a child by the size of his mother. If you missed the blessings of being responsible to your siblings, clients, partner, friends and others, the best thing an anointing oil from a pastor will do in your life is to fry your head for dinner in the 'canteen of frustration'.
So, be eager to pack the plates you find on the table of responsibility: at home, office, neighborhood, the associations you belong to, everywhere...
Don't look at or mind those making fun of you, be intentional and live a life of meaningful impacts in this side of eternity. 
In this life's journey, try to pack the plates along the way. And the Almighty God will reward you.

Tuesday, May 14, 2019

We are Priceless to those who Love us.

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill in the room of 200. He asked, "Who would like to have this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up.
He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this."
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill .
He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air.
Well, he replied, "What if I do this?"
And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.
"Now, who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who do love you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by who we are and whose we are. You are special. Don't ever forget it."
- Author unknown.

Monday, December 31, 2018

Happy New Year, 2019.

May the year 2019 usher into our lives,  all the good things we wish for and desire in our hearts for the good of our lives and for the benefits of mankind.

Saturday, December 29, 2018

When People Exhibit the Attitude of a Caged Animal.

The words on the marble by Bob Marley
Some individuals, irrespective of their intellect, are like animals that have been caged for too long. When, by benevolence, the cage is finally flung open, they will refuse to leave. To them, the cage is a comfort zone but to the rational bystander, it's another case of mental slavery. 

A Lesson in Civility.


I was headed to a meeting recently at a downtown office building. There was a guy a few steps ahead of me, apparent in a slight hurry. In addition to observing his light jog, I also noticed we were headed in the same direction towards the elevator. As the elevator opened, he immediately got in and began frantically pressing the ‘close door’ button causing the elevator door to close as I was only a few steps away. Because I was visible, his refusal to attempt to hold the elevator for me raised a few questions in my mind about the state of civility in today’s society.We’re involved in a great deal of incivility ranging from simple gestures of kindness; the handling of social media; and, even what’s taking place in the presidential election.  We’ve moved past the days of giving someone the right-of-way  in traffic, stopping at cross walks, saying “excuse me” when inadvertently bumping into someone, sending “thank you” cards, etc. Taking all this into account we want to remind and encourage you to extend a little patience and kindness along with a sprinkling of some random acts of kindness in our everyday lives. We can all make a conscious effort to get civility back!


- Author unknown.

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Mother Teresa.

Finally watched "The Letters". It's a movie about the life and times of Mother Teresa. And I thank the good friend that recommended it. Now, I know what gave rise to one of her famous quotes, "I'm just a pencil in the hands of God".
 
Mother Teresa dedicated her life to pure, selfless service to humanity and to the glory of God. In view of the many gifts (exotic cars, limousines, millions of Dollars etc) presented to her by presidents, monarchies, including the Queen of England, the nun could have been one of the richest women in the world. But she made a vow of chastity and poverty. All those gifts were summarily handed over to charities. She simply refused to serve God and Mammon at the same time.
 
The good nun actually left a comfortable environment to go live with the poorest of  India's  "untouchables". And even while receiving a Nobel Prize, she was the most poorly-dressed recipient. For Mother Teresa, there was no need for the latest in fashions, mansions, a fleet of cars, private jets and other vanities. May her soul continue to rest in peace.

Monday, November 21, 2016

This Nigerian Man Cannot Stop Giving: Food, Money, Cars, Shops, Even Houses.

In a narrow dirt lane where children scamper and play, Garba Buzu’s rubber sandals slap the ground as he walks. His black prayer beads dangle and swing in his right hand. His shoulders are bent, and his body rolls like a ship with every pace along the alleys of this northern Nigerian city. The children freeze shyly when he walks by. Mothers throw themselves to the ground and bow low. Old men clap their hands together, faces creased with joy. Not that he doesn’t have his own responsibilities: He has four wives, 25 children and more than 1,000 relations and hangers-on who live in his compound.



“It’s by providence,” he says. “I cannot say I will allow a person to go away empty-handed, without some little satisfaction of the needs they came for. I never lack in giving something that they need. Widows, orphans, all kind of people come to me.” 

Buzu is pious, humble and strict. Born in neighboring Niger, he moved to Maiduguri, a center of religious learning, as a young man 37 years ago to teach Arabic and the Koran. He shared a shabby room as a tenant. But as his following grew, people made donations in return for his prayers. He built a house for himself, and later added rooms and built more houses for his students and many relations. From there, it grew.  

“I divided the property I used to buy into two parts, and I still do. One half, I build houses and give to under-privileged people. The other half, I buy and sell for profit. 

“It started gradually, and it’s still expanding.” 

His house is a down-at-the-heels maze of compounds, with worn dusty rugs, peeling ceilings and a frightening tangle of electrical wires instead of a fuse box. The place has an ancient feel to it. In one courtyard, his wives and children sit quietly. In another, men unload bags of wheat and rice, ready to be handed out. Every Friday, a camel is led in to be slaughtered and the meat distributed. He runs an informal Islamic school, where men and boys pray and write out the Koran in elegant ink calligraphy on yellow parchment. For much of the day, he receives visitors on a small elevated platform on his airy rooftop, surrounded by broken down couches, some with no legs, others with the insides spilling out. Several of them are occupied by sleepy young men, prayer beads dangling. Two shifts come morning and evening to recite the Koran, in musical chants. 

An elderly man with a walking stick, white flowing garments and a beard staggers up the two flights. He has come nearly 200 miles, a six-hour drive, from Gombe in Adamawa state, traversing dangerous areas to see the charitable man. Buzu prays with him and offers a donation. 
“You should spend this judiciously. Buy things you want, especially kola nuts,” he says, referring to a large bitter nut that contains caffeine and is seen as sacred in northern Nigeria. 

Parked in Buzu’s compound are 13 battered, dusty cars, a tractor and a motorized rickshaw that look as if they haven’t been driven in years. When a well-heeled visitor tells Buzu he’d like one of the cars, Buzu smiles and responds, “That won’t be a problem.”

All the time, his prayer beads swing. Charity is mandated in Islam as an act of purification. And in northern Nigeria, well-off men often support large extended families who have little means of their own. But few men give away as much as Buzu does.

“Whenever I give things out, I always receive more blessings,” he says. “This has kept me going. When I do such things, I feel very happy.” 

Ibrahim Ahmadu, 42, never asked for help. But 22 years ago, Buzu gave him a newly built shop rent-free in a city where rents rise so fast that shops often fail. 

“It was a huge surprise,” says Ahmadu, a father of three, perched on a chair in his barber’s shop, surrounded by clippings of hair. “He made me become self-reliant by working hard to be my own man.”

Despite his popularity, Buzu does have enemies. Four years ago, the Islamist extremist group Boko Haram started threatening the neighborhood. The militants warned Ahmadu to close his barber’s shop. One morning, two gunmen sped up on a motorcycle as Buzu was crossing his compound and fired six shots at him, but missed. Their motive is not clear. 

“I think they wanted to kill me so my people would suffer and be left in deplorable conditions,” says Buzu. “Then they might turn to Boko Haram.” 

Inside the compounds where the people live, clothing is strung across narrow alleys; children skip ropes made of woven plastic bags, and women fry dough. Some women have small tailoring businesses, and others embroider men’s hats to sell. Some grind grain to make bread that will be given out to people. Yagara Hamidu, 21, a heavily pregnant refugee from Monguno, north of Maiduguri, stands in the doorway of her small home. She fled the town last year when Boko Haram attacked, killing her brother and grandfather. When she arrived in Maiduguri with her husband, they heard about Buzu. 
“People were heaping blessings on him, and they were saying he is giving out houses.”

Buzu put the couple up in his home for a week, then offered them the house she is standing in. In a city with millions of refugees, thousands of them living in the open, she says, “I have peace of mind and a roof over my head.”

All shades of people come to Buzu, “rich and poor, young and old, men and women,” says Ismail Adamu, 60, his deputy and longest associate.

“The needy are helped by him, but the wealthy come to find solutions to their problems. They give him money, and this is used to build houses and give out food. He never keeps it for himself.”

A teenage girl enters and genuflects timidly. Buzu asks the nervous girl who she is.

“My father said I should come. I am your granddaughter,” she says.

He sends her to the women’s quarters downstairs, gaining another dependent, just like that.

Courtesy: LATimes

Sunday, July 19, 2015

The benefits of Doing Good.




 “Lets’ not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time, we will reap a harvest of blessings if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9.

Sunday, July 12, 2015

A Gift of Trust and Negative Impressions.



How many times have some of us received a wrapped gift on which is boldly written, “Fragile—Handle with Care”? This is precisely the impression that comes with the issue of trust. Trust is like a fragile gift. When reposed in a person, it can either be nourished or destroyed by the type of impression generated by the beneficiary to the folks around them.

Once upon a time, people could trust certain individuals in positions of trusts. Now for example, the impression is that only foolish parents will entrust their kids with Catholic priests. With many “Pentecostal” pastors owning private jets and living extravagantly, only naive Christians make a big deal about paying tithes. And these days, teachers, counselors and sports coaches are viewed with suspicions lest they abuse kids in their care. These trust issues were preceded by negative impressions on the part of the perpetrators but the impressions were branded as mere rumors and ignored.

Professionally, some of us have fallen victims of colleagues who betrayed our trusts in the past. And it wasn’t as if we didn’t see the problems coming. At one time or the other, we were presented with certain negative impressions about them but we ignored the warnings. Sadly, there have been other forms of breached trusts in friendships, marriages, relationships and other human endeavors all because the warning signs were ignored.