Preparing kids for the Future.

“We may not be able to prepare the future for our children. But we can, at least, prepare our children for the future.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt.

Stevie Wonder Welcomes Another Bundle of "Joy".

Legendary soul singer, Stevie Wonder was reported to have got a very special “Christmas present”. He and his girlfriend, Tomeeka Robyn Bracy, welcome a new baby, their second child.

According to reports, the soul singer already had eight children with five different women before this new baby. Stevie Wonder’s kids range in age from 12 months to 39 years. For a man who is considered to be financially comfortable, no eye-brows would have been raised except that, among other things, he is 64 years old!

As for the "baby mama", would she have ever thought of having children for such an old man if the man had not been a rich celebrity? At such an advanced age, what tangible role of fatherhood is the singer going to play in the life of that baby, other than to expose the child to a future laden with social and moral potholes? By the time the child grows to become 18, the father will be 82 years old and that is if the man is lucky to still be alive by then. This is very unfair to the poor child!

One can still remember the unpleasant situations that characterized the home-front of another legendary soul singer, James Brown upon his demise. Long after the man was buried, his body had to be exhumed upon a court order and subsequently, his legs were hacked off for a DNA test as part of a paternity suit. He was treated like a dead stray dog. What were (are) some men (and women) thinking? As they recklessly go about creating social problems, don’t they ever bother to think about the future consequences of their actions, especially long after they are gone?

Transgender Couple: When the Weird Meets the Confused.

The lovers below (Bianca and Nick Bowser) are a married couple raising kids in Kentucky. They look cute, don’t they? But theirs is a strange, weird one.



Bianca, 32 (on the left) was originally born as a boy who was named Jason. And her husband, Nick, 27 (on the right) was actually born as a girl named Nicole. The two met in 2009 and fell in love before Nick decided to change his (her) gender.

As a couple, the duo of Bianca (formerly known as a man) and Nick (formerly known as a woman) decided to start a family. As at that time, Nick (who was still physically a female), decided to get pregnant for Bianca (who was then a man) even though Nick already identified as a male at that time. Subsequently, Nick (who was physically a woman) had her breasts removed surgically in order to fit into "her" new role as a man.

The bottom line of this saga now is the reversal of genders by the two individuals. Bianca (the former male) is now a woman/wife while Nick (the former female) is now a man/husband.

In the near future, it will be left for the kids of this couple to sort out the weird from the confused. However, theirs will definitely not be as simple as separating "the rice from the chaff"!

 

Having a Child is a Choice

Going by the daily reports in newspapers and on TV, too many young people are railroading themselves into correctional facilities over dumb stuffs. And there is the strange pattern of the many convicts whose formative years were at the mercy of individuals who did not care a hoot about their future. Unfortunately this pattern persists till today.

On the one hand are the foster parents, some of whom are simply out to make some extra bucks. And, on the other hand, are the proxy parents. These are the grandparent, aunty, uncle and even the nanny to whom a biological parent routinely abdicates the primary responsibility for a child.

And talking of the biological parents; there are men who are more adept at sowing their "wild oats" than nurturing the fruits of their labor. Conversely, there are women who, for financial gains, will rather be custodial parents living off "child supports" without any form of motherly instinct.

There is also the pathetic scenario of a once-loving married couple who have now turned against each other in a bitter separation or divorce battle.  As one party tries to outdo the other in trading blames and grabbing whatever money or property is within reach, kids that are the products of the union are left in the lurch or treated as the last item of consideration.

Ironically, while the poor, hapless kids wallow in confusion and anger in the aftermath of this grave situation, the parents simply move on with their lives. Some of these parents will even unwittingly flaunt their new lovers in the face of the kids.

Most kids from one or more of the above situations go on in life with chips on their shoulders. With the impression that society owes them something, such kids proceed to look for scapegoats against whom to lash out their anger and frustrations, even at the risk of getting hurt in the process. And most often, the consequence is a jail term or sometimes, an untimely death.

Having a child is a choice—whether from a casual relationship or marriage. Regrettably, there are many kids who are ultimately made to feel like a "mistake" that arises from a couple's poor choice in life.

Procreation should not be an unwelcome result from a sexual recklessness. And neither should a child be construed for a therapeutic toy for a woman to "lean on" when confronted with some life's travails. Rather, it’s a self-imposed, life-long, painstaking task that demands physical, material and emotional responsibility.

Those of us who are unable to make these salient provisions, due to one reason or the other, should be fair enough to avoid this choice lest we contribute some menace to the society.