The LoveOasis Magazine.

The issue #12 of the adorable and glamorous LoveOasis Magazine is out. You can read it free by clicking on the following link: http://www.magaden.com/issue.php?id=13&volume=4

RIP Louis Johnson (April 13, 1955 – May 21, 2015).

RIP Louis Johnson (April 13, 1955 – May 21, 2015) of the “The Brothers Johnson” band. The well-known bassist died on Thursday. He was 60.

He and his brother, George, started their careers as studio session men for Billy Preston and Quincy Jones. In 1976, the two formed “The Brothers Johnson” and came up with No. 1 hits among which were, Strawberry Letter 23, Ain’t we funking now, Blam and Stomp.

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Narcissism: Between Kim Kardashian and Beyoncé.

According to Wikipedia, to be narcissistic is to have an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. Narcissistic individuals are vain, self-loving, self-admiring, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, conceited, self-centered, self-regarding and egotistic.

Narcissism is a social disease that afflicts the rich and the famous. This disease is regularly sustained by the media which routinely feed on the gullibility of the famous. At the height of her “social sickness”, Britney Spears was notorious for her desperation for the limelight. And when it appeared that some other fellow narcissistic celebrities were stealing the shows, Spears resorted to the absurd. She shaved her head and, promptly, the young woman was back on top of the news. But in spite of all that nonsense, the time came for the media to get their hands on a fresh set of suckers.

Right now, the most notorious in narcissism among the celebrities are Kim Kardashian and Beyoncé Giselle Knowles-Carter a.k.a. Beyonce. Amidst a very tight competition, these two women will go to any length to display their obsession for public attention. From marrying some “unusual” men to giving their kids names that are most ludicrous and wearing outfits that make them look as good as stark naked, just anything will do in feeding their insatiable lust for public attention. And this was evident at the last Met gala where both Kim Kardashian and Beyoncé wore outfits that left nothing to imagination.

In the above picture, the gross hypocrisy of the American media was glaring. One picture that shows celebrities in the erotic movies genre is captioned as “Porn stars at the 2014 AVN porn Awards”. But the other picture showing Beyoncé and Kim Kardashian is captioned as “Influential people at the Met gala.” Objectively though, the “porn stars” dressed like choir girls when compared to the so-called influential women who looked as good as cheap whores.

 

 

 

Oprah in Her Own Words.

Raven-Symone: When Confusion Meets Ignorance.

In a recent interview on E! News, Raven-Symore was said to have declared that she didn't see herself as an African-American. Cool. If she doesn’t want to be affiliated with the African American community, fine. This is a free country where everyone has the right to affiliate with whatever racial group they choose. We are in a society where there have been so many cross-breeding that some products of such sexual liaisons naturally get confused as to their racial groups.

The former child star however over-reached herself when she mixed confusion with abject ignorance by declaring that; “I am from every continent in Africa, except for one, and I'm from every continent in Europe, except for one."

Can someone please tell the “poor” young woman that she could have derived DNA from every country in Africa and Europe. But there is only one African continent just as there is only one European continent. In the same vein, she is genetically implying that too many species of human beings from across Africa and Europe had, in the past few centuries, engaged in crazy sexual relationships. And that the person called Raven-Symore is a final product of the craziness. What a confused, ignorant individual!

Tasha Smith: When Life Imitates Arts.

When the movie, "Why Did I Get Married?" by Tyler Perry came out, I was of the opinion that a lot of single women should learn from the lessons that were abundantly exhibited in the movie in the area of marriage. This is because too many women appear to be interested only in mundane issues when considering future husbands. It’s always irritating to me when I hear women give reasons why they are in love or marrying a man. The stupid reasons usually range from “Oh, the guy is so cute!” to “He is great in bed”, “The man is rich” and “He has a nice car”. The most annoying part of it is that the affected women are the educated types that are not expected to be so dumb.

And, of course, the dumbest in this group of women are the celebrities. I often wonder whether it’s the fame or money that gets in the way of their common sense. An example of this stupidity is that of Tasha Smith, star of Tyler Perry’s "Why Did I Get Married?" It’s a classic case of life imitating arts. The woman obviously learned nothing from the movie’s many lessons.

According to TMZ, the actress “will think twice about getting hitched again -- the now ex-husband she calls a glorified assistant just scored a fat settlement in their divorce.” The woman has been ordered by a court to “hand over nearly $7k/month in spousal support to Keith Douglas. That's on top of the $50k she already shelled out to him in December.” The million Dollar question now is what was the woman thinking when she met, courted and getting married to a guy she now suddenly consider to be a “glorified assistant”? If the man actually fits that description then, she must be a glorified, damned fool!

The Hunger to Become Somebody.

Many, including some fans of Aerosmith, don’t know the history and the motivation behind the song, “Dream On”. It was written in 1969 by Steve Tyler, long before the formation of Aerosmith. Always dreaming of the day he would make it big in the music industry, Tyler wrote the song as a personal affirmation that success was a matter of time for him.

As he and the Aerosmith’s band mates continued to tour and toil in the early 1970s, Tyler never lost his sheer determination to succeed and (in his own words) “the hunger to become somebody…” The “hunger” ultimately drove the songwriter/lead singer to suggest to his band mates, the re-release of the song, “Dream On” in 1976.  The song rose instantly to number 6 and became the band’s first major single and the biggest hit so far. Steve Tyler has since become “somebody” in the music industry and the rest is now history.

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Let's Appreciate our Differences.

"We need to expand our minds to appreciate our differences. To be color-blind, is not a thing I don't think that one should boast about. See color and celebrate it. See our differences and celebrate it. When somebody says to me, 'I'm color-blind. I don't see color,' I'm thinking 'You're missing out on a lot of beautiful colors.' " - Selma director, Ava DuVernay in a special Martin Luther King Jr. Day message.

Stevie Wonder Welcomes Another Bundle of "Joy".

Legendary soul singer, Stevie Wonder was reported to have got a very special “Christmas present”. He and his girlfriend, Tomeeka Robyn Bracy, welcome a new baby, their second child.

According to reports, the soul singer already had eight children with five different women before this new baby. Stevie Wonder’s kids range in age from 12 months to 39 years. For a man who is considered to be financially comfortable, no eye-brows would have been raised except that, among other things, he is 64 years old!

As for the "baby mama", would she have ever thought of having children for such an old man if the man had not been a rich celebrity? At such an advanced age, what tangible role of fatherhood is the singer going to play in the life of that baby, other than to expose the child to a future laden with social and moral potholes? By the time the child grows to become 18, the father will be 82 years old and that is if the man is lucky to still be alive by then. This is very unfair to the poor child!

One can still remember the unpleasant situations that characterized the home-front of another legendary soul singer, James Brown upon his demise. Long after the man was buried, his body had to be exhumed upon a court order and subsequently, his legs were hacked off for a DNA test as part of a paternity suit. He was treated like a dead stray dog. What were (are) some men (and women) thinking? As they recklessly go about creating social problems, don’t they ever bother to think about the future consequences of their actions, especially long after they are gone?

A Tale of Two “Sweet Sixteen”.

Recently, Lil Wayne’s daughter, Reginae Carter, was reported to have celebrated her 16th birthday anniversary with pomp and pageantry. To her celebrity parents, becoming a “sweet sixteen” was a big feat. And for this huge "achievement", she was rewarded with a BMW SUV by her father while the mother gave her a Ferrari GTO.

Initially, when the news broke, I felt some sense of shame. Why so? My daughter, Ebunoluwa, also attained the age of sixteen this year. For my daughter though, becoming a “sweet sixteen” was not the only feat achieved. Earlier, at a tender age of fifteen, she got admitted into college. That was the age Lil Wayne's daughter completed middle school. Unlike the rapper's daughter, my daughter actually turned sixteen while in college and she has since been maintaining the status of a straight “A” student which culminated into her acceptance into an Honor’s society. In a sharp contrast to Lil Wayne’s daughter therefore, my daughter deserved a plane, possibly one of those luxurious executive Lear jets. But what did I give her? Some clothes and a dinner at Red Lobsters, a sea food restaurant!

In the final analysis however, my shame turned into pride when, in a subsequent discussion with my daughter, I was made to understand a salient point. She did not envy Lil Wayne’s daughter. If anything at all, she would rather sympathize with the “poor” girl. Why so? The teenager's case is like that of a Biblical phrase about the impossibility of anyone “worshiping God with Mammon at the same time”. Luxurious, exotic cars with loads of cash can never go together with a teenager’s pursuit of education, sense of values or moral standards. Sooner or later, all those material things will pass away. But nothing can ever take away an education and neither can anything surpass a high sense of values.

And I concurred.

 

Chris Rock as a Drop-out.

“I dropped out in the tenth grade to work at 'Red Lobsters'. And trust me…to drop out in the tenth grade is the dumbest thing to do. You might as well drop out in the second grade. In fact, the guy who drops out in the second grade is more qualified to do a job than the one that drops out in the tenth grade. This is because the person that drops out in the second grade will have eight years of more experience than the guy that wastes time waiting all those years to drop out.” – Chris Rock.

The Lesson Here is that it's DUMB to drop out of school. For every drop-out like Chris Rock that became a celebrity, millions of other drop-outs are languishing in illiteracy, ignorance and dead-end jobs.

Al Sharpton: The Gold Fish has no Hiding Place.

When the news broke the other day that one of the highly visible and vocal civil rights activists in the black community, Rev. Al Sharpton owed some money in unpaid taxes, I was not really surprised. Guys like that, in spite of the pious image they portray to the public, usually have some stinking skeletons in their cupboards.

I was however surprised to learn that the amount he owed was in the sum of $4.5 million! According to an investigation conducted by the New York Times, Sharpton “regularly sidestepped” taxes, rent and other bills. His non-profit organization National Action Network alone owes over $1 million in overdue payroll taxes. Now, how could taxes be deducted from the employees of his organization without the same taxes being remitted to the Internal Revenue Service?

For Al Sharpton, it is a double moral tragedy.

In his desire to fight for justice and the civil rights of other people, Al Sharpton does not necessarily have to be a holy angel or a saint. But he is not only a sundry civil rights activist but also someone who strongly lays a claim to religious leadership, a factor on which rests the bulk of his reputation. For this factor therefore, he definitely needs to be morally above board.

And in silly attempt at self-defense, Sharpton appeared on the CNN yesterday saying that the reported $4.5 million was the original figure he was ordered to pay back in 2008, but that he has been making regular payments since then and the amount is now less. Pleaseeeee! Can someone please tell this guy that whether 2008 or 2014, he has no moral right to owe taxes, period!

Sharpton cannot, on the one hand, strive to be seen as a respected “man of God” that is playing “savior” all over the place while, on the other hand, he is grossly shirking in his civic responsibility to pay taxes in his individual capacity and as a business man who owns some for-profit companies such as Raw Talent and Revals Communications.

If a famous, money-making public figure such as Al Sharpton refused to pay taxes why should poor, ordinary folks like me pay?

Angelina Jolie: Dares to be Different.

According to news report, Angelina Jolie was, penultimate Friday at Buckingham Palace, made an honorary Dame in the list of recipients issued to mark the British Queen Elizabeth's birthday. The title recognizes Jolie's work in founding of the Preventing Sexual Violence Initiative (PSVI) and the contribution she has made toward the British foreign policy objective of ending sexual violence in conflict.



The actress and humanitarian, 39, had a private audience with the Queen, 88, who presented her with the physical symbol of her recently bestowed title of honorary Dame – the Insignia of an Honorary Dame Grand Cross of the Most Distinguished Order of St. Michael and St. George.



I have a whole lot of respects for this lady. She is just one of the very few Hollywood celebrities that I care about. Majority of them can only attract a sneer from me. Yet, this has nothing whatsoever to do with her works as an actress, her beauty or her fashion. Rather, I cherish the fact that she dares to be different. Most of the Hollywood people, and especially the women, are often too busy idolizing their bodies, parading intimate body parts or getting involved in one scandalous issue or the other. And while these silly stuff are being pasted on pages of gossip magazines and all over the internet, Angelina Jolie is somewhere in a remote corner of the world doing some humanitarian works.

 

 

 

20 Kids Can Never Play Together for 20 Years.

There is a saying in my ancestral homeland (Nigeria); “Twenty children can never play together for twenty years.” This is a reality of life. But it does not enjoy recognition among many of my African American folks. They don’t know when to let go of the human, emotional and material baggage in their lives. For the youngsters though, the worst baggage is usually their old neighborhood “homies” or buddies.

Many of these young folks, especially the men, are often stuck in the past. It’s considered an attitude of “keeping it real” when a young, urban professional, sports personality or Hollywood actor gets stuck with buddies or “homies” in his past neighborhood. It does not matter that those buddies are not doing anything positive or productive with their lives. If they are not drop-outs, they are deliberately jobless or into some criminal enterprises.

Now into big-time career and famous, a typical African American young man will surround himself with these buddies from the past. It will have been a different thing worth commending if he reaches out to those buddies with the sole aim of uplifting them educationally or with some careers. No, he will only be interested in turning them into hangers-on, to boost his ego. Sadly though, the same buddies or hangers-on will, in most cases, turn out to be his nemesis. This reminds me of MC Hammer, Allen Iverson and many others. Where are their buddies who used to play the role of hangers-on?

There was also the sad story of a young African American rising basketball star who, at the beginning of his career visited his old, childhood neighborhood. There, he ran into some old buddies who invited him to take a ride in a car. The group soon drove to the entrance of a store. Leaving the basketball star in the car, the others walked briskly into the store, pulled out small hand guns and robbed the place. As they ran back into their waiting car, a witness secretly took photographs of the young men. That was all the police needed to round up the perpetrators of the crime. All the attempts of the basketball star to prove his innocence proved abortive.

Unfortunately, this is just one of the many ways that innocent young black folks railroad themselves into bankruptcy, jails and worse, untimely deaths.

Marilyn Monroe in Her Own Words.

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” -  Marilyn Monroe.

Poor Jill Scott and her Hacked Nude "Selfies".

I am still wondering about the hues and cries attracted by the hacked nude “selfies” of Jennifer Lawrence, Jill Scott and other female celebrities who are obviously “suffering” from overt narcissism. Worse than vanity, narcissism occurs when a person (usually a woman) places too much attention or admiration on their sense of beauty and general appearance.

Why, in the world, would those women (the so-called victims of hackers) go to the vain extent of taking nude “selfies”? Other than some silly hackers, anyone else could have stolen their phones and made a worse mess of those women than the hackers have done.



And now, there were those in the black community who felt Jill Scott did not get much “help” from the feminists fighting the hackers’ “injustice” against Jennifer Lawrence and some other white celebrities. These defenders of Jill Scott’s “moral virtues” were of the opinion that the “white feminists” were racists by not extending their “assistance” to Jill Scott because of her skin color. What arrant nonsense!

In the first place, what were Jill Scott’s objectives for taking nude "selfies"? Was mere looking in the mirror not enough for her? As for those blaming the so-called "white feminists", I guess they need to see the reactions on the internet. Most of the negative reactions to Jill Scot's nude "selfies" came from blacks (men and women).

Some black women actually wondered what Jill Scott thought she was doing by "flaunting" a shapeless body. And some black men "advised" her to go participate in the reality TV show called "The losers". Whether it was Jennifer Lawrence, Jill Scott or some egoistical female celebrity taking some childish nude "selfies", the act is nothing but the worst, gross level of vanity. It’s called narcissism!

 

Like Kutcher, like Cannon: The Marriage Games in Hollywood.

In the entertainment industry, ageing female celebrities have a way of dumping themselves on available young men as soon as they realize that old age is creeping on them. It’s often a case of a much younger man being used to brighten up the fading glory of an older woman. Such was the life story of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore in the aftermath of the latter’s divorce from actor Bruce Willis.

And so it was with Nick Cannon whose youthfulness “helped” boost up the public image of a much older Mariah Carey.



Lest we forget, Mariah Carey (in her younger, glorious days) got married to record executive Tommy Mottola who was about 20 years older than her. The man had earlier dumped his erstwhile wife for Mariah Carey. And as soon as her singing career hits the peak, the woman promptly dumped Mottola. But whatever goes around always comes around.



As Ashton Kutcher’s movie career got a major boost with his marriage to the older Demi Moore, so also did Nick Cannon’s career in the entertainment industry galloped upon his marriage to the older Mariah Carey. And like Kutcher who eventually dumped Moore, Cannon has also decided to crawl his way out of the marriage to Carey.

In a recent media interview, Nick Cannon tried to further shore up his image by declaring that the break-up with Mariah Carey was something initiated by him. The young man went on to state that he was ending the marriage because of Mariah's emotional state.

Marriages among celebrities have always been very low on love but very high in the uplifting of careers, egos, money and other mundane stuff. This factor alone has contributed enormously to the lowest ebb in which the sacred institution of marriage has been kicked in the entertainment industry.

 

No Man is Ugly Except by Choice!

Are you a young man who feels ugly because some women say so? It’s time you had a rethink because no man is ugly except by choice. In fact, it’s far easier for a man to look handsome than for a woman to look pretty. And how do you do this?

1. Get a good education. It’s the ticket to a good job, a car and a home.


2. Speak and write good grammatical expressions.


3. Identify & explore your natural talents such as sports, music or acting.


4. Dress properly. Even thugs wear suits when they appear in courts.


5. Be very hard-working. And no tardiness!


6. Finally, be patient! Get-rich-quick plans only leads to jail or death.

With the adoption of the above sense of values, you will sooner or later reap the fruits of your labor. And before you know it, many women will begin to find you attractive. If you are in doubt, go ask the following guys who were once called ugly:

1. Elon Musk: Co-founder of PayPal, (Dated beautiful women like Cameron Diaz).


2. Jay Z: Rapper (Married to Beyonce and other women run after him).


3. Kevin Hart: Commedian (Once married a pretty woman and others are after him).


4. Danny Devito Actor (Married to pretty Rhea Perlman).

 

Who Gave Birth to Blue Ivy, Beyonce or Tina Seals?

On top of everything in the lives of both Beyonce and Jay Z and, most especially, the divorce rumors swirling around them, there is now something else. It is a rumor brewing with a very strong aroma around the alleged surrogate mother of Blue Ivy. So, Beyonce did not actually give birth to Blue Ivy?



A woman, Tina Seals, has filed a suit in a Manhattan court claiming that she was, in fact, the birth mother of Beyonce’s daughter. And she wants custody of the “golden child”, Blue Ivy.

According to some legal experts, there was no way Beyonce and Jay Z could lose the rights to their daughter. But this factor would depend on their alleged relationship with Tina Seals, if any such relationship existed at all.

In the state of New York, it is illegal to pay anyone to act as a surrogate. But unpaid surrogacy is not illegal. Therefore, if indeed Tina Seals did act as a paid surrogate to the power couple, she might have a legitimate case.



Incidentally, two factors are not helping Beyonce in this matter. Firstly, she is very well known to be overtly narcissistic by her grandiose and excessive interest in her physical appearance. Women in her shoes, more so, those who are celebrities usually don’t have a room for any pregnancy or motherhood in their lives. To such women, a baby tends to create some form of unwelcome rivalry.

Secondly, Beyonce did not help her case against a claim of bogus pregnancy when sometimes in 2011, TMZ revealed to the whole world how Beyonce’s purported pregnancy “collapsed” while trying to sit down on a chair (See pictures below). This made many people across the world to believe that she was wearing a prosthetic.



Maybe it’s high time the power couple came out publicly to clear the air by making their positions known on all these wild rumors flying around them. Keeping mom and pretending all are well will never help their images as celebrities of note.

Will James Brown Ever Rest in Peace?

James Brown, the soul legend who died of congestive heart failure on December 25, 2006 was kept on ice for several months due to stupid squabbles among his descendants. Finally, sanity prevailed and his body was buried. But the body has never known peace!



So far, the body of James Brown has been exhumed and relocated for about 16 times. Some of these relocations were brought about by the singer's widow, Tomi Rae, upon the excuse that the man did not get the burial he would have wanted. The same woman also got a court order to get the man’s legs amputated and practically dismembered. This was to have a DNA test performed to determine whether James Brown was the father of Rae’s son, James Jr.



For a man who rose from a very humble background and, by dint of hard work, rose to great heights in the music industry, this is a big shame!

Whatever legacies James Brown would claim he had left to posterity could never compare with the gargantuan mess that now lingers since his demise. This is a huge lesson for all men, irrespective of their financial or social status. The mess men create in their wild days definitely lives after them!