Choose Your Friends Wisely.

"Be very careful about the type of people  
 with whom you socialize.
If you choose to roll with pigs,
you're going to get muddy.
And pigs will love it.                  
If you go about with dogs,
you'll eat faeces.
And dogs will adore you for it."
- An old adage.

Seeing Sunshine on a Cloudy Day.

No matter how bright a day is, it’s inevitable that a few patches of cloud will still be spotted here and there in the horizon. And whenever Mother Nature chooses to make a day all dark and gloomy for 24 hours, I have resolved to see only sunshine on such a cloudy day.

When a Man Loves a Woman.

When a man loves a woman,

he can't keep his mind on nothing else.

He'll trade the world for the good thing he's found.

If she is bad, he can't see it...she can do no wrong.

He'll turn his back on his best friend if he puts her down.

When a man loves a woman,

he spends his very last dime,

tryin' to hold on to what he needs.

He'd give up all his comforts, sleep out in the rain

if she said that's the way it ought to be…

Song by Percy Sledge.

The Good, Old Truth.

When Saying Sorry is Not Enough.

A Message for Black Leaders.

“I now realize, that we who consider ourselves leaders in the black community can’t just be against racism. We have to also be against a portion of black culture that has become increasingly anti-authority and anti-social to a point of self-destruction. This is an enemy we’ve yet to engage in the black community. But it’s a conversation I think we’re forced to have now.” – As told The New York Times by Brian Willingham, a church pastor and black police officer from Flint, Michigan.

My response: The above message is for Al Sharpton, Jesse Jackson and the other black leaders. It’s high time they began to address some salient issues such as the sky-rocketing number of drop outs among black students, frequent black-on-black crimes, the social malady of “babies” having babies, women having five kids for five different men and the numerous men who are “missing-in-actions” in the lives of their kids.

Yes, I am Blessed!

This is my most favorite book of Psalms, my daily affirmation, spiritual sustenance and song of victory. To God be the glory.

Things to Do When You've Been Betrayed.

After being betrayed, most of us want two things, usually at the same time. We want to wound the person who hurt us—as deeply and as excruciatingly—as we've been wounded, and we want to rise above the situation and offer that person forgiveness. But neither of these tactics work. Wounding words tend to boomerang and make you feel as terrible as the person you wanted to hurt. Forgiveness, especially if halfhearted, tends to come off as condescension.

There are actions, though, that you can take to can heal yourself. Every hurt has its own story, and so does every healing. But we can say this: You can heal yourself when you've filled the hole left behind by a betrayal, and you can heal the other person when you sincerely drop the need for revenge.

Remember, the only betrayals that inflict damage are the ones where an intimate bond has been torn. Love makes you merge with another person, able to feel their emotions as keenly as you feel your own. If you have experienced such bonding, you know that it is a kind of higher reality—and when that bond is ripped apart, it's as if you've lost half of yourself. So how can you get out of torment and find yourself again?

1. Gain some detachment. Stand back and view yourself as if you were the helper, not the victim.


2.  Don't indulge in emotions you cannot afford. Don't act as if you’re feeling worse than you really are—or better.

3. Make a plan for emotional recovery. Look at where you hurt, feel wounded or see yourself as victimized, then set out to heal these areas. Don't rely simply on letting time do it for you.

4. Feel the hole inside and grieve over it—but promise yourself that you will fill it.

5. Seek a confidant who has survived the same betrayal and has come out on the other side.

6. Work toward a tomorrow that will be better than yesterday. Don't fixate on the past or what might have been.

7. Counter self-pity by being of service to someone else. Counter regret by seeking out activities that build your self-esteem.

Written by Deepak Chopra.

Who Says Something is Impossible in Your Life?

Franklin D. Roosevelt was a child when his father took him along while visiting President Grover Cleveland in the White House. While having a small banter with the kid, the president stared at him and remarked: “I have one wish for you, little man…and the wish is that you will never be the president of the United States.”

The child shrugged his shoulders as any child of that age would likely react under the circumstance.

As fate would have it though, Franklin D. Roosevelt went on to become the President of the United States. And he got re-elected as president three more times.



There is a saying that “man proposes but God disposes.” This adage applies to people in two ways. On the one hand, a person’s yearnings or aspirations may be thwarted by fate through circumstances beyond his or her control. And this twist of fate may turn out to be for the good of the person concerned. This is because sometimes, a disappointment may be a blessing in disguise after all.

On the other hand, a person’s yearnings or aspirations may suffer at the hands of pessimists, naysayers and those who will stop at nothing to discourage or create obstacles on the paths of other people. Yet, with a strong faith in God, determination and persistence, anyone can achieve an objective, no matter how difficult it may seem or be portrayed.

 

 

 

Marilyn Monroe in Her Own Words.

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” -  Marilyn Monroe.

Taking Responsibility for our Image.

Whether we like it or not, certain people in our neighborhoods, at our jobs, among our friends and even within our families, will insist on seeing the worst in us. But it is our individual duty to take responsibility for our image, do right by others and project positive image to make a majority of people see the best in us.

There is a natural mechanism in every individual that sieves the positive character in our nature from the bad. Therefore, no matter the extent by which other people try to dent our image either out of ignorance or by sheer mischief, if the positive character in our nature is greater, it will always outshine whatever smear campaign is launched against us.

 

 

Taking a Position on Issues.

“There comes a time

when one must take a position

that is neither safe,

nor politic,

nor popular,

but he must take it

because conscience

tells him it is right.”

-       Martin Luther King Jr., (A Testament of Hope).